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Reacting Vs Responding

>> Tuesday, January 11, 2011

I have certainly gotten better at this over the years.   I think this is what they mean by 'if I knew then, what I know now..." or better yet.. "Youth is wasted on the young!" 

I came across today's Inspiration via my inbox for The Daily OM.  I'm placing it here as a reminder for me because, while I've improved in this area as time has gone on... there is always, Always room for improvement here. 

The Daily OM's Beyond Reacting

Remembering To Pause -

Beyond Reacting

Our initial response to situations may not always be best,
learning the art of pausing before reacting can be helpful.


We have all had the experience of reacting in a way that was less than ideal upon hearing bad news, or being unfairly criticized, or being told something we did not want to hear. This makes sense because when our emotions are triggered, they tend to take center stage, inhibiting our ability to pause before we speak. We may feel compelled to release the tension by expressing ourselves in some way, whether it’s yelling back at the person yelling at us, or rushing to deliver words of comfort to a friend in trouble. However, there is much to be said for teaching ourselves to remember to pause and take a deep breath before we respond to the shocks and insults that can come our way in life.

For one thing, our initial response is not always what’s best for us, or for the other people involved. Reacting to childish rage with childish rage will only escalate the negativity in a situation, further ensnaring us in an undesirable dynamic. Similarly, when we react defensively, or simply thoughtlessly, we often end up feeling regret over our words or actions. In the end, we save ourselves a lot of pain when we take a deep breath and really tune in to ourselves, and the other person, before we respond. This doesn’t necessarily mean we don’t say anything, although in some cases, that may be the best option.

Some situations require a fairly immediate response, but even just a moment of grounding ourselves before we do so can help enormously. The next time you find yourself wanting to react, try to pause, and in that pause, take a deep breath. Feel your feet on the floor, the air on your skin, and listen for a response to arise within you, rather than just going with the first thing that pops into your head. You may find that in that moment, there is the potential to move beyond reaction and into the more subtle and creative realm of response, where something new can happen.

~The Daily OM

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3 Reflections:

meleah rebeccah 5:46 PM, January 13, 2011  

I absolutely LOVE this. And it was certainly advice I needed to hear today!

marijuana quotes 10:00 AM, March 04, 2011  

lovely post!

John 1:59 PM, March 08, 2011  

Wonderful advice, though your sublime green animated ass makes it hard to concentrate on the message. ;) How's the new job going?

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